Do our children care what we think? Many parents will say, “No. After all, they don’t care about the fact that I can’t stand their clothing. They don’t listen to me when I ask them to do things.”
However, the truth of the matter is that our children do care what we think – maybe not so much about our taste in clothing, but, far m [...]
I generally avoid using the term “unconditional love,” because it is so
misunderstood. Many people associate these two words with allowing one’s
child to say and do whatever he pleases. Their eyes thus roll when they
hear this term. I strongly believe in unconditional love and just as
strongly believe that parents should not give their child [...]
When it comes to encouraging our children to perform mitzvos, I strongly
advise not to use force. When supper is over, I remind my children, often
more than once, to bentch, but I do not stand over them until I see them
bentch. I don’t believe it is helpful towards them becoming avdei Hashem.Yet, when it comes to basic hygiene, like brushing [...]
Our children have a wonderful habit of embarrassing us in public. The
tantrum for the candy in the store, the wildness at the Shabbos seudah,
and other types of antics often make us wish that we can dig a hole in the
ground on the spot.When my brother was little, he was with my mother in shul near another
mother who was holding her baby. My m [...]
There are people we encounter over the course of our lives to whom we wish
we could explain what they are doing wrong in the way they are behaving or
dealing with others. So why don’t we approach them and share our feelings?
It’s usually one of two reasons. Sometimes it’s both.
1. They will be insulted.
2. They won’t listen anyway.
In this ar [...]
There it was, a plastic sparkly blue hat, and my two year old son found his treasure. He just loves hats.
My wife was away and I am getting my children ready to go to the pizza shop for supper and my son insists on wearing his new blue hat. His two older brothers would have nothing to do with it. We are not going if he wears that hat. I, on t [...]
Every yeshiva has to create a schedule and structure that it believes will
prove effective for the vast majority of its students. It is inevitable,
however, that not every boy or girl will neatly fit in for a variety of
reasons. What happens then?
Year after year, we can sit back and teach the majority of the class and
feel bad for those chil [...]
There is no better parable in my eyes to parenting a child than tending a seed into a tree. We are entrusted with a precious seed from God to help see it develop and grow. We do not choose its type, we do not control its process of growth; we just do our best to give it what it needs to grow and flourish, and sit back and watch. This perhaps [...]
One of the more common causes of friction between spouses is disagreement
over how to parent their children. “You always give in and make me look
like the bad guy,” the “tougher” parent tells the “softer” one. “Don’t be
so hard on him,” the “softer” one pleads with the “tougher” one.
Certainly, it is hard for us to watch our spouse’s handling [...]
Your child clearly looks unhappy about something. The following typical
“I don’t want to talk about it.”
“Well, if you don’t tell me what’s wrong, I can’t help you.”
Parents can be extremely busy and make the mistake of ending the
conversation right there. You see, most often the child want his parents